Tips On Not Trying Too Hard With Women

One of the main factors that drives a man to "try too hard" (thus pushing women away) is his need to for women's approval. If getting a woman to approve of you--either by flirting with you the way you want, or laughing at your jokes, or going out with you, or having sex with you--is your main goal, then you are going to have a much harder time getting a woman to flirt with you, or laugh at your jokes, or go out with you, or have sex with you. It's a weird paradox, but it's true--you are more likely to get the approval you want from women--and everything else you want from women, too if you can let go of seeking their approval when you interact with them.

When you let go of wanting approval from women, you may make some interesting discoveries.

As you let go of wanting women's approval, you may discover yourself feeling more free with women.

As you let go of wanting women's approval, you may discover you are more relaxed with women, and around the topic of women in general.

As you let go of wanting women's approval, you may discover that women seem more attracted to you.

As you let go of wanting women's approval, you may find that interacting with and flirting with women is much easier and more fun.

As you let go of wanting women's approval, you may find yourself more selective about the women you ask out, or want to be with.

As you let go of wanting women's approval, you may find that they start seeking YOUR approval.

As you let go of wanting women's approval, you may find that not having a lover right now doesn't mean all the bad things you thought it meant.

As you let go of wanting women's approval, you may find you are more relaxed in every area of your life.

How to do it :

1) For the next week or so, experiment with letting go of wanting women's approval. When you are interacting with a woman, just remind yourself, "I let go of wanting her approval, just for now." You may even imagine the sensation of wanting her approval, rising out of your body.

Then, see what happens when you interact with women without seeking approval.

Don't expect to get laid TONIGHT using this approach. If you are using this approach to get laid right now, you'll start looking for her approval again, and blow the whole thing. For now, just let yourself do what you find yourself doing when you let go of seeking a woman's approval. This is not to say that is WON'T get you laid tonight--it may. But having that be the goal, at least at the beginning of using this approach, is a bad idea.

Letting go of seeking women's approval is NOT the same as actively seeking their disapproval. For many men, the only way they've known of not seeking a woman's approval is to get her upset, disgusted, or angry. You may have experienced this yourself; times you've done something to piss a woman off a little, just to show that you don't need her approval to be happy.

To be clear, we are NOT suggesting that you seek women's disapproval--that's still wanting something from them, above and beyond whatever interaction may naturally be there. It's not the same as letting go of wanting her approval.

When you let go of seeking a woman's approval, you don't know what is going to happen. You might be drawn to doing flirting moves with her, or you might not. You might treat her romantically, or you might simply treat her in a friendly fashion. You can't know in advance. But you can know this: if you are a man who chronically seeks women's approval, and who feels as though he fails with women too much, you WILL have more peace of mind and happiness, as well as eventual success with women, if you let go of seeking their approval.

2) Explore niches. When you start experimenting with letting go of wanting women's approval, it helps tremendously if you actually spend some time around women so you can practice letting go of seeking their approval.

The best niches in which to practice this are ones in which you see the same women over and over--classes, for instance, or clubs, or any group that meets over and over with the same membership.

When you are seeing a woman one time, and one time only--like at a coffee shop, for instance--you are likely to get scared that if you don't seek her approval now, you'll never have a chance with her. This will lead to trying to get her approval, trying "too hard," and messing up.

In groups that meet over and over, however, you can let go of trying to get a woman's approval right now, knowing that you'll see her again later, and that you can see how things develop over time. This will relax you and enable you to let go of seeking her approval even more easily.

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Seducing Deaf Women

Dear Ron and David,

I was out dancing the other night and I met a very hot girl. We had fun dancing together, though she also danced with other guys, and I hung out with her and some other people after the bar closed.

My only problem with her is that she's mostly deaf. I mean, it's not a problem that she's mostly deaf, I still like her, and would still like to date her. It's just that I have a question: In view of the fact that she can hardly hear, should I change anything about how I go about seducing her ? Much of my normal wit and charm seems lost on her, as she doesn't hear it. Yet she seems to like me, she just doesn't seem to want to talk a lot. What should I do ?

J.

Hi J.,

There are challenges in dating all women, and hearing impaired women are challenging, too. Here are some factors that are probably confounding you in your quest to get to know this girl better :

She looks at you very intently, but you can't tell--is that because she is interested in you, or because she is reading your lips?

She probably had to learn to speak without being able to hear herself, so she might not have the subtly of vocal inflections that other women have. This makes it harder for you to judge her interest, warmth, upset, or whatever by her tone of voice.

Much of seduction, the way we teach it, involves conversation. However, conversation may not be a hearing-impaired woman preferred way of connecting with people. If she can't hear your charming and witty remarks, she won't be seduced. That can also be confusing.

The "Romantic Moves" don't seem to work with her. Some of the romantic moves won't work--whispering will probably be lost on her, for instance. Holding eye contact "too long" might also be lost on someone who is used to intently focusing on someone else's face in order to read their lips.

She also might be used to being more isolated, which may make it harder to "get through her shell."

The upshot of all of this is that you will probably feel more baffled and 'in the dark' with this woman than you might with some other women. It will be harder to tell how much she likes you, and how interested she is.

There are two things we would suggest :

First, use email with her. She's seen you, she's danced with you, and she's had some fun with you, but conversation has been difficult. Try emailing her, and treat the interaction like an online seduction (for more on this, see our booklet "The Internet Seduction Toolkit". Send her romantic poetry, and let your conversations and priming date happen online.

Second, after you've communicated with her via email, sent romantic poetry, gotten to know her a bit, and showed your romantic interest, then take her on a date that gives you both something to experience other than talking to each other. Take her to a flower show, where you can both smell the flowers, or go on a walk in the arboretum, or go dancing again, just you and her. Give her an experience, then try the "first kiss tests," and see where it goes from there.

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How Socially Isolated Guy Can Meet Women

I tend to be socially isolated, which makes it even harder for me to meet women. What should I do ?

We talk a lot about "doing your niche work." Fundamental five, "Do your niche work," is an important part of succeeding with women. For men who are not aware of it, "niche work" is the work you do to find places where you can interact with women who attract you, easily and efficiently. The difference between a seducer who refuses to do "niche work" and one who does it is the difference between a fisherman who throws his line anywhere, hoping to catch a fish, and a fisherman who knows where the best fishing holes are, and who goes to them so he can reliably catch his fish. The fisherman who has done the work to find good fishing holes will always catch more fish, just as the seducer who has found good niches will have more success with seducing women. "Niche work" is important, but we are seeing more and more that it can be made a lot easier if you follow one simple rule, as you do your niche work. That rule is: Accept all invitations.

We have worked with many men who's instant response to almost any social invitation is "no," yet who are baffled as to why they are lonely and don't have a girlfriend. You may not know it, but you probably have more opportunities to do social things than you think, but are so used to saying "no" that you miss out on opportunities that could both make you new friends, and put you in front of women.

You can find out how much of a "no" mentality you have by adopting, over the next few weeks, a new policy of saying "yes" to every invitation. You are unlikely to be able to succeed at this project, there will probably be some invitations that really, truly, aren't for you but taking on the attitude of "yes" to all invitations will show you, in stark relief, just how "no"-oriented you might be.

There are three main reasons you say "no" to invitations:

1. Fear. For most of us, it is scary to get to know new people, so we come up with excuses. "I can't go out, it will go too late, and I have the job in the morning," or "It's too expensive to go out for beers--I have to save that ten dollars for something important!" Recognize that you are afraid, and say "yes" anyway.
2. Judgmentalism. Basically another form of fear, it's easy to use judgments to allow yourself to say "no" to new experiences with new people. In your mind, either people are too good for you, and intimidating, or not good enough, and not worthy of your time. Once again, the key is to recognize that you are being judgmental, and say "yes" anyway.
3. Hopelessness. The favorite refrain of the hopeless man is "That would never work because..." Hopeless men almost seem to delight in proving things will never get better, so they shouldn't even bother. They might say, "Saying 'yes' to that social opportunity or invitation would never work, because there would never be any women there, and if there are they'll all be old or fat." Again, recognize you are being hopeless, and say "yes." That's all there is to do.

Saying "yes" can get your girls--as well as other social benefits. For instance, one of our students was taking a comedy improvisation class. There weren't many women there, but he liked the class, so it did fulfill Fundamental Eight, "Be building a life you love, separate from women." One of his classmates, a guy named Bret, asked him if he wanted to go for a beer after one of the classes. Normally he would have said "no," (judgmentalism) but because he had decided to try to say "yes" to every invitation, he went along. It turned out Bret was a pretty cool guy, and he met several of Bret's friends at the bar, whom he liked, too. Going out after the class became sort of a ritual, and our student and Bret became friends. They went to rock concerts together and generally enjoyed hanging out.

A few weeks after their friendship began, Bret invited our student to dinner with some of his friends. Our student said "yes," and it was at that dinner he met Nicky. She was young and attractive and the two of them really hit it off in a big way, and became lovers almost immediately. Saying "yes" was the key that allowed our student to find this lover (as well as to make a new friend!).

This happens all the time, and is, in fact, the way most couples meet. They have a social life and a social circle, have accepted invitations, and ended up meeting more and more new people until they met each other and "clicked." Saying "yes" to invitations is what drives this entire system, and saying "no" is what ends it. It is true that you must take some action to get yourself socializing in the first place. This is the power of niche work. But if you combine niche work with accepting all invitations, your social life will start to take on a life of its own, and you will meet women.

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The Vicious Cycle Of Dating

In creating a life we want, there are always bumps on the road along the way. There is rejection, turmoil and the feeling that we lack the skill and confidence to really succeed with women. Have you ever noticed that when we beat up on ourselves and feel badly about our dating situation this sense of dooms tends to stick around, much like a vicious circle that spins out of control? Each and every time we beat up on ourselves, doubt ourselves, or let our fear control us when we want to initiate at any level with women, we enter a vicious circle. This circle is like a black hole that easily sucks us in and leaves us stuck spinning in a circle, with very little levity to get out.

This week we want to explore the 8 points on the vicious circle:

1. We start with a problem Problems, problems, problems. We all think we have problems from women. The guy in a relationship has a problem with his girlfriend. The guy who hasn't been on a date or had a sex in two years has a problem. The guy who feels he can't talk to women feels he has a problem and so does the college student who doesn't have the courage to talk to the woman in his psychology class.

Let's say, for instance, that we noticed a woman while we were on the subway, but didn't have the guts to talk to her. What usually happens is that we start kicking ourselves, feeling like a wimp for not going for it, etc.

2. We become insecure. Now that we've decided we have some "real" problems with women, it starts to mess with our minds. We are off of our game and tend to be hesitant to move forward. We get nervous, insecure and full of doubt. So if we feel like a wimp for not talking to the woman on the subway, we then think that perhaps we really don't have what it takes to be a seducer anyway. Do we? Can we even do anything? Maybe we should just give up.

3. We try to figure it out. To cover up feeling insecure and to battle against the doubt we come to the conclusion that there's got to be a way to figure out this situation and improve it. This is certainly the logical approach, but once again it's another trap. Why is it a trap you wonder? It's a trap because we think that we can figure out our dating problem to overcome some fundamental flaw within ourselves.

So if we beat up on ourselves for not talking to the woman on the subway, and we begin to doubt ourselves, we then think we can figure out why she didn't like us and how we probably did something wrong in our seduction. The problem with trying to figure out everything is that it always points to us still thinking that there is a relationship between us doing something and the woman not doing what we want. When we attempt to figure out why women don't like us or are not more receptive to our seduction moves, we never interpret the situation to mean that her response is not personal. Seduction 101, dating is a numbers game: women's response is rarely personal.

4. We want to know what to do and search harder to know what the answer is Moving right along. We were trying to figure out why women do not like us. Since we can't crack the code, we just fixate on more and more possible reasons why she doesn't like us. You're surely noticed that you can always come up with more and more reasons why women do not like you and why you're not more successful with women. We also tend to feel worse and worse about ourselves because we become increasingly aware in our imagination that there are some men out there that are master seducers and they know everything and how to seduce any women, but we are stupid morons who will never understand or be able to figure out the insane world of dating and relationships.

It's a trap because the question we're asking ourselves about how to get out of the vicious circle looks at the problem from the standpoint that we are fundamentally flawed and implies some sense of belief that we really do have a problem and we really are lacking in something.

Mostly when we come up with solutions we think that we need more of something, less of something, or a totally different change entirely. So we fail to initiate with the woman on the subway, we then feel stupid and lack in confidence and doubt ourselves. We now decide that if we had more money, lived in another city, dressed differently, or learned a special seduction line, and then we could be a success. The solutions we come up with dig us deeper into a pit, without any real solutions or ways out of this trap.

5. We try harder or give up and go back to just focusing on Stage One: The Problem Getting out of this trap is not working. Even the added information we have about our lack of skill isn't working. So now what do we do? Of course, we commit ourselves to working harder and to spending more time working to overcome this problem. Working hard is the solution to everything, right?

This solution works in getting ahead in our work lives, in doing better in school, in weight lifting, and in learning tangible skills, but it sure doesn't work with women. In dealing with women the harder you try, the harder it is for them to relate to you. It's like a salesman trying harder and harder to sell you something. The added intensity that a person brings to working harder comes off as an uncomfortable intensity in human interactions and again doesn't bring us any closer to a solution or a pathway out of the vicious circle.

Sadly, the other option many men come up with is to simply give up at this stage. They feel too ashamed, too embarrassed, too helpless or just lack the passion to move forward. So the go back to Stage One: The Problem. The problem with giving up is that it usually means we are completely knocked out of the game for months. We again beat up on ourselves and run a movie in our minds over and over about how much we suck and how we'll never get what we want.

6. We disapprove of ourselves and beat ourselves up more The personal hell continues. Working harder did not work either. So now we end up beating up on ourselves even more. What is wrong with us? Nothing works and what else can we do?

One of the problems we encounter at this stage is that rather than looking at specific situations in our life where we were not successful, we tend to look at our problems as global issues with our essence. So instead of looking at the situation where we initiated contact with a woman at a bar and she did not respond, we think that we can never approach women and ever have success. When we look at specific situations and specific rejections we can come up with a tangible game plan, instead we focus more on our failures and keep the vicious circle in play.

7. We still hold onto the problem What's the next step? We keep ourselves feeling stuck and we hold onto our problems tighter and tighter. We keep thinking that: a. We suck and we will never have success with women b. Our current situation sucks and that if we could learn something or if we were fundamentally different, then we would be successful.

In other words, we end up feeling worse about ourselves and completely stuck in this rut.

8. We repeat this over and over Sadly we do this over and over and over again.

Assignment for next week:

Examine in your own life the way you beat up on yourself and hold you're your own dating problems. Write down a few key areas of your dating life that feel stuck in this vicious circle and some of the futile solutions you've come up with to overcome these problems.

"Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes." -Mahatma Gandhi

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Handling Your Resistance To Initiating With Women

Do you ever feel any of these feelings when you try to initiate contact or romance with a woman ?

Do you ever:

• Feel like you are having to fight your way through a brick wall?
• Feel fear of rejection?
• Feel doomed with women?
• Feel helpless before attractive women's power?
• Want to control how things go when you interact with a woman?
• Feel isolated around women?
• Feel emotional pain or upset about women?
• Get self-critical about how you are with women?

All these experiences fear of rejection, feeling doomed, feeling helpless, wanting to control things, feelings of isolation, emotional pain, and self-criticism are forms of resisting the act of initiating with women.

Think about it:

What do you find yourself doing when you want to approach a woman, but feel afraid she'll reject you? You resist the idea of approaching her, so you won't get rejected. What do you do if you want to talk to a hot woman, but feel doomed and helpless about the attempt? You resist talking to her, so you won't find out that you are doomed and helpless after all.

What do you find yourself doing when you want to say "hi" to a woman, but you feel upset even thinking about saying it? You resist saying "hi" to her, so you don't have to feel even more upset. And what do you do if you want to flirt with a woman, but feel very self-critical about how you might do at it? You resist flirting, so you don't have to endure another session of beating yourself up about doing a bad job flirting and initiating with women.

Fundamentally, you resist initiating with women.

All these experiences fear of rejection, feeling doomed, feeling helpless with women, emotional pain, and beating yourself up are the different ways that resistance shows up for you when you try to initiate contact or romance with a woman.

Your resistance to initiating with women is what is keeping you stuck.

Handling resistance:

Most self-help gurus will show you ways to overcome your resistance. We respect those ways, and even teach some "resistance-defeating" techniques ourselves.

But sometimes it's better to not try to defeat it, to not "resist resistance." Sometimes it's better to allow things to be the way they are right now, without trying to change them. Sometimes not "resisting resistance" is the best way to move through it.

Think of a time someone brusquely told you what to do. How did you respond to their command? With resistance. In a way, their command "pushed" on you, and some part of you wanted to push back. They said "Do as I say," and your first reaction was "No way. You can't tell me what to do." It's human nature.

You've probably noticed this: Whenever you push on people, they tend to push back. In fact, people so hate to be told what to do that if someone commands them to do something they WANT to do, they often won't do it, just because of the resistance the command created.

This also holds true when you tell yourself to do something. When you tell yourself to "Push through your resistance, and talk to that woman!" you only create MORE resistance, because your mind responds to the command by saying something equivalent to "No way! You can't tell me what to do." You've probably experienced that, yourself. Taking the action can actually get harder, when you push yourself to take it.

So here's what you do: Welcome your resistance. Most of the time, we try to keep our sense of resistance out of our awareness. The invitation here is to allow your sense of your own resistance into your awareness, fully, and to allow it to be okay. Right now, as you are reading this, allow yourself to notice the sensation you have when you are resisting taking action with women. Think of a woman you are attracted to, but feel resistance to approaching. Let yourself experience that resistance. You'll probably feel a sense of tightness inside. That's your resistance. Let it be there.

Just for now, instead of trying to get rid of this resistance, simply make the decision to welcome it. Give it some space to live. You'll often find that it is easier to let go of your resistance after you allow it and welcome it completely. When you stop pushing against your resistance, it stops pushing back against you.

So for now, welcome your resistance, and don't try to do anything about it. You'll probably notice that it becomes easier, or even sometimes automatic, to let it go, and to move forward in initiating with women.

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Dealing with Girl who Got Boyfriend

The girl I'm hot for has a boyfriend who doesn't fulfill her. She says she loves me, but won't leave him for me. I keep waiting, but it only seems like they are getting closer. Yet she says she is unhappy with him.

Whe will she leave him for me ?

The answer is NEVER. The way you have things set up now, she will never leave him for you.

This is a classic male dilemma. She says she wants a guy like you, but, somehow, she stays (and gives sex to!) the guy who she claims to not like. You don't like this situation. Why would you?

You're problem is that you think that because you are unhappy, and because she is unfulfilled, it means that she will inevitably leave him and go out with you, instead. You tell yourself that all you have to do is wait, and the situation will eventually cut your way. But it doesn't--in fact, the more time you spend with her, the more it seems like she is committed to her boyfriend.

The problem is this: The way you have things set up now, she is getting everything she wants, and has no incentive to change anything. She says she is unfulfilled by her boyfriend, but the fact that she stays with him belies that she in fact DOES get something out of it. It fulfills some subconscious need of hers that you will probably never understand.

The truth is, you are unhappy with this situation, but she is just fine. She can have hot sex with her boyfriend, then complain to you about how unfulfilled she is, and you give her love and support unconditionally. She has everything she wants, and she will NOT leave him for you, as long as this is true.

If you want this to change, you have to take some risks yourself.

Here are the risks you have to start taking, today, if you want to turn this situation around:

Pursue other women. If you want to turn her into a lover, it is crucial beyond words that she not be your one-and-only-hope for sex. You must be pursuing other women, flirting with other women, romancing other women and being sexual with other women. It will give you a sense of patience with your "friend," remove any sense of desperation you may be feeling around her and make you less available-and thus more attractive-to her.

Act like a lover, not like a female friend. Pop quiz, hotshot: what does a man who becomes a woman's friend do differently with her than another woman would? Answer: nothing. Moral: if you want a woman to see you as a sexual man, rather than basically as an ugly woman, then you must act differently than another woman would. This is true for women you are just meeting as well as for women who have known you for a while and already think of you as a friend. Bottom line: you must flirt with her, weird as it may feel to you the first time you do it. You must flirt.

Start doing all the flirting moves. You must ask, "What's the story behind that?" You must practice Situational Flirting and the Goodbye Introduction. You must conduct Romantic Conversations and Deepening Conversations. When you start incorporating these behaviors into your life, women will not wonder whether you are a wimpy friend or a potential lover. You'll be a potential lover every time or she'll get rid of you.

Check our program, "How to Talk to Women" at for more about these skills.

Be upbeat and be busy. The chances are you are kind of depressed when you're with her, complaining about your life and generally being a whiner. You must stop doing that right away. She should find herself thinking, "Wow, he seems pretty happy, even without me. I'd better get a piece of that!" rather than "Wow, this guy is a downer." You must act more upbeat, like you have something going on in your life. The best way to do this is to pursue other women (see above).

Refuse to stay just friends. If you do what we say, things will start seeming more romantic with the women you befriended. She'll either get with the program (and probably say, "You've changed!") or she'll tell you in no uncertain terms that you are now and will forever be just friends. If that happens, you have to stop hanging around with her. Without hedging, tell her, "I'm sorry, but it's too painful for me to be just friends with someone I feel this way about. I'm attracted to you." Then stop hanging around with her-at least then you'll be doing something positive for your self-esteem as a man.

Will this make her leave her boyfriend? We don't know, but we do know it will move you in the direction of getting the relationship you want, if not with her, then with someone else.

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Should I Meet Women On The Street

I often see a woman on the street, and I feel like, "I wish I could go talk to her." What is the answer? How can I go talk to her and seduce her ?

If you are thinking "I wish I could go talk to her" when you see a hot woman in a public place, it's a sign that you are not taking advantage of the easy places to meet women in your life.

The thought "I wish I could go talk to her" is the result of a life where you have eliminated all reasonable opportunities to meet women. Therefore the unreasonable, most-difficult opportunities while on the street, while she's running for a cab are the only ones that pop up. You end up thinking that the solution is to get good at handling the only opportunities you see the near-impossible ones. it's not.

You only moan about not being able to meet women "on the street" when you are NOT meeting women in all the places that you should meet them social networks, niches, classes, and by being generally involved in your life. Moaning about wanting to meet women on the street is a SYMPTOM of needing to do the basic work of meeting women.

Because you are not doing what you should do to meet women, but you still desire women, you start fantasizing about seducing women you see on the street. This leads you either

1. to beat up on yourself for not being able to miraculously seduce those least-available of all women, or
2. to start falling for miraculous quick fix claims that say they can teach you to get those women in twenty minutes or less.

We've said it a million times, but it's still true: if you don't have your life set up so that meeting women is automatic and easy, all the quick-fix claims in the world won't do anything but separate you from the money in your wallet.

• If you aren't joining and visiting clubs and teams, you are going to end up longing for women you can't get, who are the most difficult to talk to and seduce.
• If you aren't saying "yes" to social invitations and developing social groups, you are going to end up alone and horny, wishing you could have sex with the hot barista at the coffee shop you frequent.
• If you aren't participating in activities and classes, you are going to start moaning about how you wish you could talk to some woman you see on the street somewhere.
• If you are not doing online dating, then you'll spend your life staring at a woman on the bus and dreaming about how great it would be to be able to walk up to her and seduce her.

Unless you are willing to have balls of absolute, inhuman steel (which you aren't) and unless you are willing to develop a set of scams and routines (which you also probably aren't), then stop thinking the answer is to learn to approach a supermodel who is running for a cab! It's not!

Thinking "I wish I could talk to her" is NOT a sign that you need to learn how to approach strangers in public, where every hot woman is angered by or terrified of new men talking to her.

Thinking "I wish I could talk to her" IS a sign you need to GET A LIFE.

There is no magic phrase or perfect opening line that can take the place of getting a life!

Actually, though, this is good news. "Getting a life" will make you increasingly happy and effective and connected with women in a meaningful way.

This year, consider making this New Year's resolution: Let go of trying to learn scams that don't work, and which make you feel bad about yourself. Stop wanting to be a manipulative jerk, and learn how to make real connections with women even if those connections are just for short-term sexual relationships.

We've had many students whose lives have become significantly happier in every respect by taking on getting a life, rather than wishing they could instantly seduce hot women on the street. One man says "Since I took up Salsa dancing, and really got into the community, it's been natural for me to meet, flirt around with, and even bed really hot women. That has made it much easier to talk with women everywhere else, too." This could be you.

Oh, and here's a bonus: When you have a life that puts lots of women in front of you, and gives you reason to talk to them, approaching women in public becomes significantly easier.

When you have a connected, active social life, you will find yourself becoming the kind of person who naturally talks to strangers, and to whom strangers naturally talk. You won't have to work on it happening you'll simply find that it happens, when you have a life with women that juices you up.

Put another way, the ability to "approach any woman" is a result of having developed a life that is rich in social opportunities that put you in front of women already. Once you have that, approaching women in public will just be part of what you naturally do.

Try this right now: Just for this moment, get off your own back about needing to learn how to approach and seduce "any woman, any time, any place." Allow it to be okay that you might never be good at approaching supermodels who are running for a cab, for instance.

At the same time, allow it to be possible that you might have more sexual abundance with hot women than you ever thought possible. Allow yourself to relax into the idea that you can have what you want with women, even if you aren't the Perfect Seducer in every situation.

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